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What's Holding You Back?

Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs

Over the years I have been super Mom, super volunteer and a part-time super Pilates/Fitness instructor. But deep down I had that feeling that I was not living up to my full potential. I never felt like I was doing enough. Once I made the decision to figure out how to make a living as an artist, a whole new world started to open up to me. Early in my search (Mar 2020), I came across the Rise podcast, with Rachel Hollis. That lead me to reading her book, Girl, Stop Apologizing. I didn’t realize the thoughts and beliefs I had held onto for so long were limiting me in reaching my full potential. Awareness is key to making any change, so this was a huge step in my growth process. I related to Rachel on many levels, because I had many similar experiences growing up in a rural setting with a traditional family. I did get a college degree, but I went for a degree I thought I should get. It wasn’t a great fit and I struggled all through school. Out of 34 cousins (yes, I’m from a very large family), I was the second one to get a degree. I didn’t have a lot of support or role models for getting ahead in life.


Here were some of the major limiting beliefs I was dealing with:

  • I don’t have time.

  • I’m not good enough.

  • I don’t know enough.

  • I can’t pursue my dream and still be a good mom/wife.

  • I’m terrified of failure.

  • It’s been done before.

  • I’m not good at making money.

  • What will they think?

Do any of these ring true for you?

What I figured out was the following:

  • I don’t have time.

  • I have the same 24 hours in a day as everyone else.

  • There is more than enough time.

  • I’m not good enough.

  • This comes from a lack or scarcity mindset. An abundant mindset lets you know there is plenty to go around.

  • Break up with scarcity so you can allow in more abundance.

  • I don’t know enough.

  • Remember that you probably already have the answers, if only you would listen.

  • I can’t pursue my dream and still be a good mom/wife.

  • Actually, by not pursuing your dreams, you are not in alignment with the best version of yourself and you are not showing up authentically.

  • You family needs and deserves the best “you” you can give them.

  • I’m terrified of failure.

  • You only fail if you don’t try.

  • Freedom is on the other side of your fear.

  • It’s been done before.

  • But not by you.

  • What will they think? Stop giving power to other people’s opinions. They can only make you feel bad, if you give them permission. Get clear on what works for you and put some boundaries in place. This takes time, but well worth the effort. Live your life, no one else’s.

These beliefs don’t change overnight, but I'm working on developing new beliefs that will serve me in reaching my dreams. Awareness is the first step. You can't change something if you aren't aware it is even happening. What beliefs have you discovered that are holding you back? What story do you keep telling yourself that is keeping you from moving forward and living the life of your dreams?

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